A guide to anal sex, everything you need to know.

Anal Sex really is an Elephant in the room, some people love it, some hate it, but everyone is curious about it. Let us start off by saying that this guide to anal sex is aimed at both sexes. Men i’m sure your shouting at this point no chance! so let’s address this first. The prostrate is stimulated through Anal play and Prostrate stimulation coinciding with ejaculation is the holy grail of Male orgasms. So Men, have an open mind, follow this guide and give it ago. Ladies, it’s very similar for you too, a normal Orgasm existing along side Butt play can lead to a mind blowing orgasm. Some women have also claimed to orgasm through Anal penetration alone. So let’s get down to business, all you have to do is follow these 3 rules….

Rule 1 of our guide to anal sex – Communicate

It all starts with Communication. Expressing your interest is important and listening to your partners response and concerns is crucial. Anal Sex is asking a lot in a relationship, so go easy and don’t push your partner to hard. If your partner can’t agree then revisit at a later date, no one should be pressurised in to doing anything that they don’t want to. If an agreement has been made then you can move on to rule 2.

Rule 2 start things off slowly

Diving straight in is a bad idea, particularly if your partner had concerns to begin with. The anal canal is designed to be a one way street so it needs to be trained to except traffic from the wrong direction first. Before any penis sized objects goes into the tunnel, it’s important to start off small. The perfect object is the little finger. But before we go any further we need to set some ground rules.

Anal Sex can only be pleasurable if lots of lube is used, so buy a big a bottle and be generous when using it. When fingers are involved it’s important that they’re clean, no cuts and fingernails are trimmed with no sharp edges. It’s also important that that the Anus is thoroughly clean, nothing is more off putting than seeing some of the brown stuff.

Start of by stroking your partners bum, nice circular motions across the cheeks feels great and it very relaxing. Getting your partner to relax is crucial to a pleasurable experience for both of you. Slowly move to stroking the anus, for first timers this could feel sensitive and raise tension so take your time and communicate with your partner.

“How does this feel?” “Let me know if you feel uncomfortable” ” Your in control, tell me when i can proceed further”

Introduce Sex toys for training

There are multiple sex toys available for Anal play and we recommend three. Remember to use lots of lube!

Butt Plugs

A great starter toy is a Butt Plug. A generous amount of lube and slow gentle push in to the Anus will help prepare for bigger items. Available in various sizes from small to large. Butt plugs are great to use during Sex as well for a woman. The feeling of both holes getting some attention can really intensify an orgasm.

For even better sensations, Butt plugs are also available in Vibrating forms.

Anal Beads

This toys goes deeper allowing some stimulation of the prostrate for a man. Great for women too, starting off with small beads moving up to larger ones.  Again a reminder to start of slow and use plenty of lube.

Top Tip
When using on a man, it’s great to quickly pull the beads out just as ejaculation happens. This will create a much bigger orgasm.

Prostrate Massager

Designed to stimulate the Male prostrate, this toy will give you an Orgasm that you have never experienced before. Also available in vibrating for like the one above.

Moving on to Anal Sex….

After a few days or even weeks, if both parties are happy to proceed then you should be good to go. Remember to take things slow and use plenty of lubrication. A top tip for a more pleasurable and hygienic approach is to use a condom for Anal sex.

Rule 3 – When the fun stops, stop!

Sex is all about pleasure, if it’s not pleasurable then you should stop. Anal sex isn’t for everybody so if it becomes painful then you should stop immediately.

So there you have it, our guide to Anal Sex.

Remember the 3 rules:

Communicate
Go slowly
Stop when the fun stops

and don’t forget that lube is the key to pleasure.

Anal sex is on our list of Common Female Fantasies